Facing Powerlessness

Facing Powerlessness

As the loved one of a person struggling with an addiction, it is so easy to stay focused on their recovery. Some pray to God over and over again to heal them, to make it stop, to give us wisdom on how to help them. And these are good things to do, we are looking for...
Finding Serenity: The Empowerment Dynamic

Finding Serenity: The Empowerment Dynamic

Last month, we explored The Drama Triangle, and learned how easy it is to get stuck in the drama and chaos that our addicted loved one creates in the midst of their illness. When we take on the roles of rescuer, persecutor, or victim, our behaviors, thoughts and...
Loosening Our Grip: The Karpman Drama Triangle

Loosening Our Grip: The Karpman Drama Triangle

        “It’s like standing at the edge of a cliff, and they keep jumping off the cliff, and I keep pulling them up. No matter how many times I pull them back up or beg them not to jump, they just keep jumping. I know I need to let go of the rope,...
A Caring Approach: How Parents Can Help

A Caring Approach: How Parents Can Help

        Last month, we discussed the fact that parents and loved ones can unintentionally create a barrier to healing because stigma can be so prevalent in the addiction world. Stigma, according to the National Institute of Mental Health, is...